Friday, July 5th
Most of the time, social media, self-help groups, and our culture today is always focusing on what we lack. We need to be prettier, smarter, sexier, thinner, healthier, richer, more productive, more envied, better, faster, and smarter to be successful.
These platforms give us unrealistic expectations of ourselves. We need to make more money, even though we already make a good living. We need to be perfect and wake up with a hot spouse and drive to our six-figure job in our luxury cars, even though we already have a stable job a nice place to live, and a decent car. We join groups, follow dating advice and paste affirmations to our mirror repeating them everyday because we feel un-beautiful, unlovable, and unsuccessful. Maybe it's a bit much, but you know what I mean.
Social media is great. It helps us connect with our family, friends, and stay in touch with loved ones. But, the problem with social media is that it's always showing us great experiences. I know what you're going to say, what's the problem with that?
These platforms like to remind us over and over again what we lack, and what we should be. They fixate on the negative, show us what we should have and when all is said and done, will our cultures definition of successful ever be enough?
What if for a second, everything we have, and everything we are - was enough.
I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
"The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience."
Today, I'll focus on what I have, instead of what I'm lacking.
Today, I'll create a definition of my own success.